Transform your suffering

Our anger has a resume. It has a history. For many of us, it all started with our parents who transmitted their wounds to us, their children. In return, we bear the suffering they once endured as a child. Unfortunately, some of them never had the opportunity to heal. When we get older we are clothed with scares that are a reflection of their past and ours.

We breathe in despair and breathe out confusion. We consume toxic music, watch reality shows that taunt our spirits, and eat food that lived a miserable life. We become what we consume and some of the things we choose to consume is hurting us. If we don’t find a way to care for ourselves, the cycle will continue for generations to come.

The toxic things we choose to consume physically or mentally keep us in the pot of fire. We experience hell on earth when we make a conscious decision to yell, holler, scream or shout. There is nothing wrong with having emotions. But when we are easily angered, we must dig deeper to understand why. The kingdom of God is within us all and if we continue to fuel the fire within, we can never find happiness.

We must try to heal ourselves before we can heal anyone else. When we transform internally, so does our world and the people in it. Our past may have shaped how we are today, but no one is to blame for how we choose to live our lives. We should take accountability for our own anger.

When we suffer, the people around us suffer too. If your world is full of gloom, it’s only because you have not learned how to heal your wounds.

Most of us avoid having a meeting with ourselves to understand why we are angry in the first place. Having a meeting with ourselves requires going back to when someone hurt us. No one likes to relive pain. How else do we expect to heal?

The more we practice mindfulness we can become compassionate for the person that hurt us and understand that they may have been hurt too. Perspective is everything.

When you practice mindfulness you are aware of the foods you eat, the places you go, the words you speak, the shows you watch and even the music you listen to. You focus on filling your mind with the rays of the sun, or positive things that will help you grow.

Growth requires determination and courage. When you grow you find ways to go back to your inner child and learn more about what made him or her angry in the first place. You listen and you find ways to teach yourself how to be happy once and for all. When you are growing spiritually, you may also practice forgiveness, not for them, but to free your soul of unnecessary baggage.

When you become mindful, you realize that the anger that was aimed at you growing up may not have been about you, although you were the one who took hold of the heavy load. You realize that it’s a cycle. By running away from the situation or trying to punish others for making you feel sad is not the solution. The solution is to heal yourself and to change your view about the ones that hurt you.

When you transform your suffering, you heal the heart of your inner child. By doing so, you free yourself from confusion, pain, and unhappiness.

Have you ever practiced mindfulness to transform your suffering?

Anger by Thich Nhat Hanh inspired me to write this original piece. Thank you for reading my post. Read more like it by scrolling down to the bottom for similar posts.

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  1. This is a beautifully written and thought-provoking piece Mayah. I’ve been discussing similar things with my husband since last month and just reflecting on them on my own. With my birthday coming up, I want year 30 to be different and everything you mentioned in this article is what I am working on this month prior to turning 30. Once I hit July 28th, I want to elevate. It’s been time and I’m so glad I keep getting reminders like this one letting me know that I’m on the right path doing the right thing headed in the right direction to fulfill my purpose and enjoy all that I have desired out of life. You’re right about how it all starts from childhood and if those demons aren’t faced and put to rest you can never truly experience real freedom. Year 30 is so significant for me and even as a kid I knew it would be. I’m so hopeful and expectant and focused and excited and ready for all that is to come. Finally, I feel like I’m coming into my own. I still have work to do but I’m proud of the work I’ve done so far and how far I’ve come. Suffering definitely has to be transformed and I believe that everything I’ve been through has taught me invaluable lessons. If I hadn’t gone through any of it, I wouldn’t be where I am today and I wouldn’t have the resilient mindset I have.

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    1. Thank you for reading my post and sharing such an amazing testimony. I’m glad my post was a reminder for you to forgive, become compassionate and to listen to your inner child in order to heal your mind, body and soul. I believe your purpose will be fulfilled because you’re consciously taking steps towards enlightenment. Positive energy brings forth positive change.

      We can’t run forever. I’m glad you’re facing your anger and understanding where it all began. Life lessons make us human. No one is perfect. We fall daily, but if you have the strength to get back up, you’ll make it.

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