By: Brittany S. Carr
My Instagram quote in my bio says, “Find the courage to do the impossible. You’ll love yourself for it.” My husband and I did just that back in October of 2017. We were struggling between the thought of staying in our hometown and being maxed out, or moving far away, completely out of state, to start a new life. We got married in December of 2016 without a lot of support, so you can imagine it was truly us against the world. From January to October of 2017, we felt like there had to be more to life than what we were doing and we were determined to find out what “more” for us would look like.
One fateful day in October, my husband looked at me and told me it was time for us to move. We had talked about moving before, but I didn’t know if he was serious enough to go through with it. This time he was.
I was already 1,000 percent for it from the day we got married. We talked through the logistics and went to work that day like normal. It was a rip the band-aid off kind of deal. After the day was over, we slept that night so peacefully knowing that the real journey of our lives was about to begin the following morning.
We got up the next day and packed our entire life up. We moved without saying a word to anyone (except my family because my mom would have killed me and worried herself to death if I didn’t tell her I was leaving). We moved without saving up and without having a plan. We knew we had a place to stay and that’s all that mattered to us. If the place we were going to stay at fell through, our backup was to travel to our destination, live in our car, and stop at truck stops to eat and wash up. We knew for sure that moving was the right decision and we knew with patience everything would line up.
We never heard God say move or saw a sign. We just agreed as a couple that what we were doing wasn’t working and we had to do something about it. Things haven’t been easy since we moved. Every single day, ways were made for us to eat and have somewhere other than our car to lay our head. We moved in October, I got an amazing job with an amazing boss in my favorite field (Human Resources) in November, we are moving into our own place in January and I do believe soon and very soon, my husband will be able to start his own carpentry business successfully.
One thing we’ve learned since the move is you cannot be afraid to network and ask for help. When people see you’re genuine and you’re trying to do better for yourself, the more willing they are to assist you. Through the kindness of others we were able to have places to stay, money, and food to eat. Our car broke down unfortunately, shortly after arriving, but she served her purpose. She got us here without any trouble and she died helping us make our dreams come true. Now it’s time for a new car to accompany us on this journey. After we find one, we will be all set!
The moral of the story is this, do not let fear, lack of money, naysayers, or anything else stop you from taking charge of the direction of your life. I’ve always liked the quote, “You are not a tree. If you don’t like where you are, then move!” I’m glad I have a partner in life who isn’t afraid to be different and seek out all life has to offer us. When you stay focused and keep a positive attitude, great things are bound to happen. Bad things happen too, but that’s life and you have to take the good with the bad. Life always has a way of balancing itself out. It has proven that to me time and time again. Our story isn’t over yet and I can’t wait to see the rest of it unfold!